It’s healthy to exhibit anger on occasion, but chronic and volatile anger can have a significantly negative
impact on your health, as well as wreak havoc on your personal and professional relationships. The
good news is that there are many useful anger management tools and techniques that can help. Follow these three tips to gain control of your anger:
Determine the root cause.
Feelings of anger do not just come out of thin air; anger is often the result of many deep-rooted emotional issues you may be keeping inside. To truly deal with your anger, it’s essential that you get in touch with why you feel the way that you do. Take some time to think about your relationships and what may be causing you feelings. Anger is frequently a knee-jerk response to an issue much larger than what may appear on the surface.
Learn your triggers.
Everyone has different triggers that cause angry responses or behaviors. Part of effective anger management involves taking note of negative thinking patterns that trigger your anger. For example, jumping to conclusions or constantly placing blame on others may trigger your anger. Taking steps to reduce these thought patterns will reduce your anger and help you think more rationally about each situation. You’ll also want to pay attention to the places, people, and situations that may trigger you to lash out. While you cannot avoid every trigger, you can try to put yourself in more positive settings that bring out the best in you.
Find ways to cool down.
Your ability to de-stress and cool down is critical to getting your anger under control and releasing yourself of toxic energy. Once you know your triggers, you can focus on discovering the best ways to keep your anger in check. Some common ways to cool down are deep breathing exercises, reading a book, or going for a run. Once you find the best ways to relax, you’ll be able to sort through your feelings and find ways to better express your anger.
If your anger has spiraled out of control, it’s in your best interest to make anger management a top priority. Be mindful about how you deal with your emotions and get control of your anger before it takes control of you!
A professional therapist can do wonders to help you in your anger management journey. Get the help you need and schedule a consultation with Joseph Montaldi, licensed clinical social worker, based in San Antonio, Texas.